WMHTM-7

Marriage taught me I can endure great heartships and still remain calm and capable of thinking. My husband presented me with lots of bullshit throughout the years. In the beginning, when my emotions were our of wack, I would fall apart.

As I grew up, I became more capable of dealing with the disappointments and setbacks. I became creative in my solutions and thus felt more empowered as a person and woman. I began to take on the challenges of day-to-day life with more boldness and ability.

Marriage awakened my warrior!

Get It Straight

Folk need to get it straight; there are no free rides. Everything is going to cost you something. Whether it is money, time, or attention; you will pay a price if you try to get by.

Now, I know, everybody ain't like me, 'take a lickin' and keep on tickin,' but still there are people who know they have to work for what they want, there has to be. I'm disappointed with the quality of workers that come into the job I am at. These folk don't want to do anything, but they want to be paid. Years ago someone gave me this short story:

SHORT STORY

THERE WAS A STORY ABOUT FOUR PEOPLE
NAMED EVERYBODY, SOMEBODY, ANYBODY AND NOBODY

THERE WAS AN IMPORTANT JOB TO BE DONE
AND EVERYBODY WAS SURE THAT
SOMEBODY WOULD DO IT. ANYBODY COULD HAVE DONE IT, NOBODY DID IT.

NOW WHEN SOMEBODY GOT ANGRY ABOUT THAT
BECAUSE IT WAS EVERYBODY'S JOB,
EVERYBODY THOUGHT ANYBODY COULD DO IT, BUT NOBODY REALIZED THAT
EVERYBODY WOULDN'T DO IT.

IT ENDED UP THAT EVERYBODY BLAMED SOMEBODY WHEN NOBODY DID WHAT ANYBODY COULD HAVE DONE.

Let's get it straight people, if you want something; work for it. If you have a job, do it. Stop looking for something for nothing. You are sure to get played, or sure to play yourself.

Really?

It always amazes me when people find out how I really am, that they are surprised. Because I can be loud and opinionated, strong in my convictions, and rarely back down from a fight; people also tend to feel I am judgmental. Which is furthest from the truth. I am a person who likes to see people do what is in their best interest. The problem comes in when I do not hesitate to be honest, or say what I believe. Most times what I believe a person could do if they chose to, is the last thing they want to do.

So, people only come to me when they think they want to hear what I believe, think, or advise. Those who walk into my world either walk out liking me, or wishing they never met me. The great thing about me is I am usually the same with everybody, unless I cannot be.

I tried to warn someone that someone they knew would be negative upon hearing news they wanted to tell. This person did not believe me, but as sure as I am beautiful, that person was immediately negative when told the news. I actually got to witness it in real time. I heard every word. No, I'm not happy I was right. It was just one of the many times I have read a person right.

Sometimes people really do just want to know your business just to know. They are with you, not for you, as evidenced by their inability to recognize your feelings when giving advise and listening to your situations, circumstance, etc. Do not be fooled. Everybody is not your friend just because they are friendly. Sometimes people just want to know your business just to know.

Before you share with other married women or men, you need to know how they feel about their own marriage. You can be guaranteed if they aren't where they want to be, they are not going to be able to be objective enough to help you. Married people do need to be real with couples seeking advise, but they do not need to be negative. Unless there is violence, no one should encourage another to divorce. Even when there is infidelity, there can be reconciliation, if the couple can come to an understanding.

Watch who you tell your business to. Take what everyone says with a grain of salt because no one has THE ANSWER, they only know what works for them.