Effective Communication in Marriage

Marriage is an agreement between two people to love and cherish each other, to financially support each other and the share their entire adults lives with each other. Communication is extremely important because our marriages are usually based on romantic love. Because problems often arise when romantic feelings collide with the daily realities of living together, learning to communicate is important for the survival of the union.

I published the series Get Out of the Way! Claim God's Will for Your Marriage because the divorce is extremely high in this country. People are leaving their marriages for stupid, often truly unbelievable reasons, devastating their lives and the social order.

Steps for Effective Communication

1. Know yourself: Get to know what your needs are and don't deny them to yourself or your spouse.
2. Watch your body language: Nonverbal communication sometimes speaks louder than words.
3. Empathize: Empathy means you can put yourself in the other person's shoes and feel what they may be feeling. Try to see the world through your spouses eyes.
4. Express your feelings and listen to those of others.
5. Nonjudemental communication: Refrain from blaming and accusing your partner. Try not to judge them. Use compassion as much as possible.

Necessary Factors for Achieving and Maintaining a Good Communication System for Your Marriage

1. Truth: Say what you mean and mean what you say.
2. Trust: Trust is earned.
3. Time: Take time to communicate when it is appropriate and not when you are rushed.
4. Tact: There is a time and place for everything. Remember, this is the person you love. Try to say the right thing, for the right reasons, in the right way.
5. Tone: How you say what needs to be said is very important. Watch the raised voice, yelling, grunting, etc.

Effective Combat

1. Humor is a great equalizer.
2. Stay with the issue at hand. Don't go all over the place confusing your partner with irrelevant information.

DEAL WITH YOUR PROBLEMS! KEEP OTHERS OUT OF YOUR RELATIONSHIP (UNLESS IT IS A TRAINED PROFESSIONAL OF COURSE)