Why Some Marriages Fail

People want to believe that their is someone out there just for them. This is true to a certain extent, but there is nothing magical or mystic about it. The person for you will reveal themselves when you are ready to accept love.

Many marriages fail because people mistake romance and sexual chemistry for love. There really is no other reason. Often time folk marry people based on these two factors, neither of which are enough to sustain the ordinary blows the best marriages take. Marriages built on these two foundations have no chance, in most cases.

Marriage requires an agreement between two people that they will be there for each other no matter what come their way. Romance requires demands of the participants that very well may cause one or the other to be less than honest, for romance is often based on lies and deceptions. Sexual chemistry is good for the time it takes to perform the act, but leaves little of substance to for the marriage to survive on.

If we want our marriages to last, we must come to an agreement to do all we can to maintain our unions and have faith that our efforts to serve one another will manifest into the beautiful life we all hope we will have when we marry.

What Does Love Have to Do With It?

Love, real love, not romance or being "in love," has everything to do with everything.

Love, real love allows us to be open to anothers limitations. Love overlooks what others will dismiss you for. Love will last a long time, but romance and being "in love," only lasts as long as the excitement lasts. When real life sets in, and there is no real love around, the relationship is doomed.

On Romance

Romance is the murderer of marriages. Marriage can never live up to the promise romance brings. Marriage is real, romance is for whimps. Romance is for those who want to do a whole lot, yet receive so little in return. Marriage offers stability and longevity, while romance only ask, "What have you done for me lately?"

I am a rock. I'm the type of woman you don't have tell you love her all the time, but would much rather have the small jestures that ultimately mean the most at the end of the day. A smile, a simple touch, a certain glance, or other things like helping with dinner, cleaning the house, or shopping for groceries.

I don't care he ever lights a candle if he pays the electric bill every month. I don't care if he ever feeds me grapes, if he buys them, I can feed myself.

If you really want to know what I think about romance for real, for real, read Robert Johnson's WE. This book changed my life.

We want too much of what we don't need, and most often don't want what we need.