There is no true explanation for why a person chooses to ruin their lives. There is a certain amount of relief they feel that is evident by the way the recover. In my husband's case, he is recovering very well. He has landed on his feet, which I always knew he would. He wanted to play the victim role with me and I wasn't having it. Somebody has to be the man.
He cannot explain his actions, nor has he really tried to. All he can say is "we shouldn't be going through this." Yet in still, we are. We are because of him and his inability to love. He told me he didn't have anything against me. I told him I think he does and his actions show it.
Until he figures it out, anyway the wind blows is cool with me.
Showing posts with label liars. Show all posts
Showing posts with label liars. Show all posts
Monday, August 15, 2011
Sunday, July 31, 2011
He Hates Me
What I have believed to be true for a few years now, is. My husband hates me. He hates me because I am a better person than he is and he knows it for sure. After 26 years, I have remained basically the same. I have maintained my dignity, personal integrity, and since of loyalty.
I have kept all my promises and have done all I could to right the wrongs I committed during our relationship. He was unable to accept my love and kindness for many reasons, the foremost being because he didn't deserve it.
He hates the fact I don't give up. He hates I have literally achieved every goal I told him I would when we began dating in August of 1985. I've even combated the weight issue and I know that is something he never thought I would do because I was so messes up in the head when it came to food and the effects it had on my body. He just knew I'd be fat and miserable all my life.
He hates me because my kids love me and has tried to turn them against me since we've been apart. This is the biggest tragedy because they know who I am. They have been here all the time too.
I tried desperately to bring him with me on this journey of self-awareness. When I met him I was crazy as hell. I was frightened of the world, depressed and lonely. He loved introducing me to stuff and bringing me out of my shell. He just didn't know how quick of a learning I would be and that I was just waiting for my turn.
As much as he understands love, I believe he has it for me. Yet, he clearly does not like me. To be honest, I'm proud to know he doesn't like me because I ain't about the bullshit and because I am the woman I present myself to be. I ain't fake and he couldn't take the for real, for real.
I have kept all my promises and have done all I could to right the wrongs I committed during our relationship. He was unable to accept my love and kindness for many reasons, the foremost being because he didn't deserve it.
He hates the fact I don't give up. He hates I have literally achieved every goal I told him I would when we began dating in August of 1985. I've even combated the weight issue and I know that is something he never thought I would do because I was so messes up in the head when it came to food and the effects it had on my body. He just knew I'd be fat and miserable all my life.
He hates me because my kids love me and has tried to turn them against me since we've been apart. This is the biggest tragedy because they know who I am. They have been here all the time too.
I tried desperately to bring him with me on this journey of self-awareness. When I met him I was crazy as hell. I was frightened of the world, depressed and lonely. He loved introducing me to stuff and bringing me out of my shell. He just didn't know how quick of a learning I would be and that I was just waiting for my turn.
As much as he understands love, I believe he has it for me. Yet, he clearly does not like me. To be honest, I'm proud to know he doesn't like me because I ain't about the bullshit and because I am the woman I present myself to be. I ain't fake and he couldn't take the for real, for real.
Saturday, June 11, 2011
Getting the Message Across
Sometimes it is hard to know if what you are doing is making its way to those who need it most. Just the other day I received a call from a woman I know in passing. We have never really had a conversation, or spent any time together. What she has done is read my post regarding my beliefs about marriage and has been inclined to believe I am honest and sincerely want others who are married to remain that way and to find happiness while doing so.
She had a problem that I actually have experienced. I think she was probably shocked that my suggestion to her was to apologize to her husband and to find a way to express her needs in a way that does not lead to an argument.
The problem she is having is typical for married women in this city. The women who don't have a man are bold enough to try to take yours off your arm. I told her to focus on this on particular person is a waste of time. I explained that it is a spirit of demonic proportions that is using this woman to do the things she is doing. Focusing on her will only set you up to miss the next one who is surely on her way.
Marriage has become something that is coveted, but mistreated once it is obtained. Many women will go to no ends to break up a marriage, only to find they should have left that man with his wife. They are so desperate until to do whatever the man says in hopes that he really loves her. She finds out differently when he leaves her either for his wife or someone else.
Too many of us waste too much time focusing on the ones who are trying to come between us and our mates. Instead, we need to mortar up the cracks in our relationship. Pray for God's will and do all we can to maintain a positive attitude towards our marriage. Someone is always willing to find the weakest link in the marriage. The message? Get out of the way and claim God's will for your marriage.
She had a problem that I actually have experienced. I think she was probably shocked that my suggestion to her was to apologize to her husband and to find a way to express her needs in a way that does not lead to an argument.
The problem she is having is typical for married women in this city. The women who don't have a man are bold enough to try to take yours off your arm. I told her to focus on this on particular person is a waste of time. I explained that it is a spirit of demonic proportions that is using this woman to do the things she is doing. Focusing on her will only set you up to miss the next one who is surely on her way.
Marriage has become something that is coveted, but mistreated once it is obtained. Many women will go to no ends to break up a marriage, only to find they should have left that man with his wife. They are so desperate until to do whatever the man says in hopes that he really loves her. She finds out differently when he leaves her either for his wife or someone else.
Too many of us waste too much time focusing on the ones who are trying to come between us and our mates. Instead, we need to mortar up the cracks in our relationship. Pray for God's will and do all we can to maintain a positive attitude towards our marriage. Someone is always willing to find the weakest link in the marriage. The message? Get out of the way and claim God's will for your marriage.
Why Some Marriages Fail
People want to believe that their is someone out there just for them. This is true to a certain extent, but there is nothing magical or mystic about it. The person for you will reveal themselves when you are ready to accept love.
Many marriages fail because people mistake romance and sexual chemistry for love. There really is no other reason. Often time folk marry people based on these two factors, neither of which are enough to sustain the ordinary blows the best marriages take. Marriages built on these two foundations have no chance, in most cases.
Marriage requires an agreement between two people that they will be there for each other no matter what come their way. Romance requires demands of the participants that very well may cause one or the other to be less than honest, for romance is often based on lies and deceptions. Sexual chemistry is good for the time it takes to perform the act, but leaves little of substance to for the marriage to survive on.
If we want our marriages to last, we must come to an agreement to do all we can to maintain our unions and have faith that our efforts to serve one another will manifest into the beautiful life we all hope we will have when we marry.
Many marriages fail because people mistake romance and sexual chemistry for love. There really is no other reason. Often time folk marry people based on these two factors, neither of which are enough to sustain the ordinary blows the best marriages take. Marriages built on these two foundations have no chance, in most cases.
Marriage requires an agreement between two people that they will be there for each other no matter what come their way. Romance requires demands of the participants that very well may cause one or the other to be less than honest, for romance is often based on lies and deceptions. Sexual chemistry is good for the time it takes to perform the act, but leaves little of substance to for the marriage to survive on.
If we want our marriages to last, we must come to an agreement to do all we can to maintain our unions and have faith that our efforts to serve one another will manifest into the beautiful life we all hope we will have when we marry.
Sunday, June 5, 2011
John Edwards
John Edwards is claiming he didn't mean to break any laws. He wants sympathy based on the fact his children have lost their mother. He wasn't thinking that way when he was causing her stress by cheating on her and bringing another child into this world while they were married.
Now, that the government has decided to look into how he has spent campaign funds, he wants to declare his innocence. He is not innocent. He is guilt, completely guilty and should be charged with every count that applies to his illegal actions.
Whether he is found guilty or not is another story. Folk are allowed to get away with so much these days. I wouldn't be surprised if he isn't given some sort of pass. I feel sorry for his children who will have to endure the pain of losing both parents if he is convicted. What a raunchy way to live your life. He should have been smarter.
Now, that the government has decided to look into how he has spent campaign funds, he wants to declare his innocence. He is not innocent. He is guilt, completely guilty and should be charged with every count that applies to his illegal actions.
Whether he is found guilty or not is another story. Folk are allowed to get away with so much these days. I wouldn't be surprised if he isn't given some sort of pass. I feel sorry for his children who will have to endure the pain of losing both parents if he is convicted. What a raunchy way to live your life. He should have been smarter.
Saturday, July 10, 2010
Wake UP
People need to accept the fact that everyone is not going to love you. Most people will find a reason not to like you before they try to get to know you. Once they get to know you and you are who you say you are, they are more likely not to like you.
These same people will form so-called friendships with other all the time knowing they are only trying to ride of the glory, confidence, coattails of the the one they think has more, knows more or can do more.
When it is all said and done, you find these folk plotting against you, trying to use you, lying on you. You have got to wake up. Pay attention to who you are letting in your life.
These same people will form so-called friendships with other all the time knowing they are only trying to ride of the glory, confidence, coattails of the the one they think has more, knows more or can do more.
When it is all said and done, you find these folk plotting against you, trying to use you, lying on you. You have got to wake up. Pay attention to who you are letting in your life.
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