Say what you want to folk are going to have sex. Sex is a natural as breathing, eating, sleeping. Sex is a mush if we are to survive as a human race. Yet, we are still so warped in our thinking about sex until we still have an abundance of unwanted pregnancies.
The way to prevent unwanted pregnancies for teenagers or adults is to help folk figure out what is in their best interest.
Oftentimes parents do not want to talk about sex because of their own hangups. First, parents need to get over themselves and accept their responsibility to protect their children. Protection goes far beyond preaching to them the virtues of abstinence. We all know how far that goes up against nature and it powerful drives.
What is needed is information and open communication. Girls and boys should be taught that sex is a natural and necessary part of human development. Along with this knowledge they should be told they are capable of suppressing these desires, if they so choose. They should be made aware that they have the mental capacity to figure out how a child would impact their immediate future and bee allowed to make the decision whether having a child is in their best interest.
What teen aged girl or boy of average understanding would say they want to interrupt their childhood to take care of a child? Only providing one option, abstinence, is what has gotten us to this place thus far.
We need to share our personal stories with our children. Many do not want to do that for fear of being judged over the revelation that many of them got pregnant before they were ready and were not married. Instead, these parents lay down their law which cannot go up against the law of nature.
We consistently try to fight battles we cannot win with demands and dictates that bear no fruit. Give your teenager the information, help them brainstorm, imagine, and visualize what their lives would be like if they brought a child into the world. The truth is deterrent enough if we would only embrace it.
Our fear of sex is killing us. I heard there are some that are likening providing birth control to teenagers is the equivalent to passing out drug paraphernalia. Really? It is amazing how far folk will go to keep from dealing with reality.
The solution is so simple. Acceptance and education. We need to accept that our children will eventually have sex and educate them properly so they may make good choices when the time comes.
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Thursday, April 8, 2010
Prevent Teen Pregnancy
Doesn't that title sound stupid? We are always against something, fighting something, rejecting something, denying something.
We, (America) hasn't figured out that trying to keep people from having sex, especially when they first discover it, is almost impossible without first holding them in high enough esteem that will allow them to understand and value waiting to relinquish their virginity. Our methods for trying to prevent pregnancy are negative and will never work.
Even with education, the drive to engage in sexual intercourse is strong and will most likely only result in that person taking precautions to prevent pregnancy and/or disease. which is all you can really hope for.
If we want to prevent teen pregnancy, we have to learn to relate to our teens. I don't see this happening. So many parents are too caught up in themselves, their jobs, etc.
We need to hold our daughters longer into their teenaged years. Their fathers should be the ones complimenting them and making them feel special and helping them understand the importance of denying their flesh. Instead, we preach and yell, and restrict, and deny. In many homes, this behavior by the parents will solidfy that child engaging in sex.
Many households have upheld the "Don't ask, don't tell," rule for centuries. No one is asking questions and no one is devulging any information. In the last blog, I mentioned my youngest daughter telling me about her classmate. She told me because she said she was having some symptoms that sounded like symptoms of pregnancy. I immediately asked her was she pregnant. She yelled, "I'm still a virgin!" I just wanted to hear her say it. I knew she wasn't pregnant, but it was also my way of letting her know what some of the symptoms of pregnancy are. She then revealed all the other information about her classmate.
Open, honest, communication! This is the only way to prevent most things.
We, (America) hasn't figured out that trying to keep people from having sex, especially when they first discover it, is almost impossible without first holding them in high enough esteem that will allow them to understand and value waiting to relinquish their virginity. Our methods for trying to prevent pregnancy are negative and will never work.
Even with education, the drive to engage in sexual intercourse is strong and will most likely only result in that person taking precautions to prevent pregnancy and/or disease. which is all you can really hope for.
If we want to prevent teen pregnancy, we have to learn to relate to our teens. I don't see this happening. So many parents are too caught up in themselves, their jobs, etc.
We need to hold our daughters longer into their teenaged years. Their fathers should be the ones complimenting them and making them feel special and helping them understand the importance of denying their flesh. Instead, we preach and yell, and restrict, and deny. In many homes, this behavior by the parents will solidfy that child engaging in sex.
Many households have upheld the "Don't ask, don't tell," rule for centuries. No one is asking questions and no one is devulging any information. In the last blog, I mentioned my youngest daughter telling me about her classmate. She told me because she said she was having some symptoms that sounded like symptoms of pregnancy. I immediately asked her was she pregnant. She yelled, "I'm still a virgin!" I just wanted to hear her say it. I knew she wasn't pregnant, but it was also my way of letting her know what some of the symptoms of pregnancy are. She then revealed all the other information about her classmate.
Open, honest, communication! This is the only way to prevent most things.
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