What Can Marriage Do For You?

What can marriage do for you?
Well, I am so glad  you asked. Marriage is a character reveler and/or builder. I know I would not be the woman I am today had I not married the man I did. Our union tested ever belief, conviction and thought I had about what marriage was about.

I learned humility, compassion, self-love, and my self-esteem grew during my marriage. I learned to be quiet and that I should pick my battles and that love, true love does not hurt.

Marriage can help you decided what kind of life you want to live, how you want your children to be reared and whether or not you are the person you say you want to be.

My marriage consistently challenged me to look at myself in every situation and decided if I was being who I really wanted to be. Marriage gave me permission to explore my sensuality and unleash my sexuality.

Marriage challenges your ego to surrender for the sake of another. It gives your heart the needed exercise when you focus on an other's happiness. Marriage gives you someone for you. That partner who says, "I want to see you smile. What can I do to make you smile today?"

If you have someone in your life willing to let you be you and love you anyway, you need to kiss the very ground they walk on cause you have found a good thing.

Marriage is for those ready to grow, give, live and love.

Give and Take, Take and Give

God appreciates us most when we learn the ebb and flow of give and take. Leaning too much towards either side is a sign of wanting to be in control of that other than ourselves. We must allow others to show us love. Being the giver is great, but not to be able to receive means your giving is in vain.

What is the point of spreading love if you cannot accept it when it comes back to you? This is the way God ensures we get what we deserve in this life. Being a gracious giver is important. It is also just as important to be able to receive from others.

I was one of those people who didn't know how to take a compliment. I didn't want anyone doing anything for me. Wouldn't let folk help me and got angry sometimes when people tried. It took a true revelation of the fact I was being taken for granted that showed me I was not allowing others to do for me.

I began to replay all the times I could have asked for help and didn't. I could have easily been turning away folk God sent especially for me. Just the thought makes me quiver. If you're willing to give it, you've got to be open to taking it, especially if it is love.