"Successful achievement requires the use and coordination of three things--thoughts, feelings, and actions. Thoughts spark the process, get it going. Feelings keep the thoughts alive, encourage more thoughts, and get the body moving. Action is important to accomplish the physical task necessary for achievement."
Get up off that thang! Get er' done. Do what you say you want to do. Coordinate your thoughts, feelings, and actions.
Peace
Thursday, April 29, 2010
Control Freaks
"The only think you can take charge of is the space within the skin of your own body. That's it. Everything (and, especially, everyone) else does not belong to that of which you can take charge. Considering the vastness of the Universe, "the space within the skin of your own body," doesn't sound like much. But consider what's contained in there: your mind, your body, your emotions, and whatever sense of You you've got. That, to paraphrase Sir Thomas More, is not a bad public."
For all of you out there thinking you can control anything, or anyone other than you, read this everyday.
Peace
For all of you out there thinking you can control anything, or anyone other than you, read this everyday.
Peace
Don't Get it Twisted
"There ae really only two ways to approach llife, as a victim or gallant fighter--and you must decide if you want to act or react, deal with you own cards or play with a stacked deck. And if you don't decide which way to play with life, it will always play with you." Merle Shain
People often ask, "How's life treating you?" I immediately let them know I don't let life treat me. I am the captain of my destiny.
You have to think like that. You cannot wait on life you have to create, develop, and live the life you desire.
Whose dealing your cards?
People often ask, "How's life treating you?" I immediately let them know I don't let life treat me. I am the captain of my destiny.
You have to think like that. You cannot wait on life you have to create, develop, and live the life you desire.
Whose dealing your cards?
Born Two Win II
I really do believe we are all born to win. According to authors of "Born to Win," Muriel James and Dorothy Jongeward, "When we refer to a person as a "winner," we don't mean one who beat the other people by winning over them and making them lose. To us, a winner is one who responds AUTHENTICALLY by being credible, trustworthy, responsive and genuine both as an individual and as a member of society." Although all people are born to win, they are also born helpless. It is the winners successfully make the transition from total helplessness to independence and then to interdependence. Losers do not."
When you read this, I am sure there are a lot of losers who come to mind. Many people, way too many people live unauthentic. They not only lie to others but they lie to themselves. Indifference is the order of the day and people can't wait to hide behind an excuse not to be the best citizen they can.
So many people give up their rights to happiness by being unwilling to look at what they bring to their lives and the lives of others. "To cope with unhappy experiences, children learn to manipulate themselves and others," says James and Jongeward. "These manipulative techniques are hard to give up later in life and often become set patterns. Winners work to shed these patterns. Loser hang onto them."
This plays out in my marriage vividly. Oh yes, I am the winner and my husband is the loser. He fits their definition perfectly.
A Loser- seldom lives life in the present; instead he destroys the present by focusing on past memories or future expectations.
A Loser-who lives in the past may lament if only: "If only I had married someone else..." or "If only I had a different job..." "If only I had different parents..."
A Loser- who lives constantly under the dread of future catastrophe may conjure up expectations of what if: "What if I lose my job..." or "What if they don't like me..." or "What if I make a mistake..."
I often say to my "only if, what if husband," "If "if" was a fifth, we'd all be drunk."
What if?
What if you stop saying what if? You'd just might find out what could happen. People like my husband have learned to rape life. They have learned to leave little of worth behind with the people they encounter. They have no remorse because they lack the authenticity to be aware that they are being fake. They are so used to manipulating, lying and cheating, until they think everyone is the same or expects to be taken advantage of.
25 years later, I could care less about the reasons why he's the way he is, as much as I care about whether he is willing to discover and change his losing streak.
When you read this, I am sure there are a lot of losers who come to mind. Many people, way too many people live unauthentic. They not only lie to others but they lie to themselves. Indifference is the order of the day and people can't wait to hide behind an excuse not to be the best citizen they can.
So many people give up their rights to happiness by being unwilling to look at what they bring to their lives and the lives of others. "To cope with unhappy experiences, children learn to manipulate themselves and others," says James and Jongeward. "These manipulative techniques are hard to give up later in life and often become set patterns. Winners work to shed these patterns. Loser hang onto them."
This plays out in my marriage vividly. Oh yes, I am the winner and my husband is the loser. He fits their definition perfectly.
A Loser- seldom lives life in the present; instead he destroys the present by focusing on past memories or future expectations.
A Loser-who lives in the past may lament if only: "If only I had married someone else..." or "If only I had a different job..." "If only I had different parents..."
A Loser- who lives constantly under the dread of future catastrophe may conjure up expectations of what if: "What if I lose my job..." or "What if they don't like me..." or "What if I make a mistake..."
I often say to my "only if, what if husband," "If "if" was a fifth, we'd all be drunk."
What if?
What if you stop saying what if? You'd just might find out what could happen. People like my husband have learned to rape life. They have learned to leave little of worth behind with the people they encounter. They have no remorse because they lack the authenticity to be aware that they are being fake. They are so used to manipulating, lying and cheating, until they think everyone is the same or expects to be taken advantage of.
25 years later, I could care less about the reasons why he's the way he is, as much as I care about whether he is willing to discover and change his losing streak.
Wednesday, April 28, 2010
Do What You Say You Are Going to Do
"be mature, firm in your commitments, generous and unshaken in the face of difficulty. So you will become capable of the great works your zeal makes you long for."
I always wanted to be an adult. I hated childhood. My father would say, "You are going to regret not learning how to play. You'll be in your 50's wanting to revisit you childhood."
I just laughed at him because deep down I know, when I'm 50 I'll be able to handle play. Play was tragic for me. Playing Monopoly with my siblings always led to cheating and arguments. Playing games became something a shunned. The man who molested me used "play" to groom me for his disturbed pleasures.
My parents could never play a game without an argument. I witnessed a man get shot during a game of craps because he was short 50 cents. It would never fail that there would be a fight after a school game, or dance. It seemed to me as a kid, fun led to pain.
But now that I am almost 50, I am really ready to play. I am in control. I can so yes or no, or even maybe.
So even though I am mature and firm in my commitments, I know I can let loose if I want to and not feel as though I cannot get back to me. Having found this balance in my life make me capable of doing the great works I truly do long for.
Be committed to fun today.
I always wanted to be an adult. I hated childhood. My father would say, "You are going to regret not learning how to play. You'll be in your 50's wanting to revisit you childhood."
I just laughed at him because deep down I know, when I'm 50 I'll be able to handle play. Play was tragic for me. Playing Monopoly with my siblings always led to cheating and arguments. Playing games became something a shunned. The man who molested me used "play" to groom me for his disturbed pleasures.
My parents could never play a game without an argument. I witnessed a man get shot during a game of craps because he was short 50 cents. It would never fail that there would be a fight after a school game, or dance. It seemed to me as a kid, fun led to pain.
But now that I am almost 50, I am really ready to play. I am in control. I can so yes or no, or even maybe.
So even though I am mature and firm in my commitments, I know I can let loose if I want to and not feel as though I cannot get back to me. Having found this balance in my life make me capable of doing the great works I truly do long for.
Be committed to fun today.
Tuesday, April 27, 2010
My Time is Now
It really feels good to know how much God loves me. Although I do not have an easy life by no stretch of the imagination, I know who I am and I feel good about the decisions and choices I have made.
I know for sure my time is now and I am open to all the Universe have to offer. I have no regrets, especially since I feel better mentally than I ever have in my entire life. My mind is free and burdenless. I pass on all things I cannot change to the One. I hold onto nothing that does not concern me and I am in a constant state of gratitude for what I do have.
My time is now. I will not sleep on it. I will not deny it.
I know for sure my time is now and I am open to all the Universe have to offer. I have no regrets, especially since I feel better mentally than I ever have in my entire life. My mind is free and burdenless. I pass on all things I cannot change to the One. I hold onto nothing that does not concern me and I am in a constant state of gratitude for what I do have.
My time is now. I will not sleep on it. I will not deny it.
Monday, April 26, 2010
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