I wish I could go back as long as I would have to go back to confront the person who misunderstood the role our ability to cry plays in our lives as human beings. This person, and believe me there is an origin, has effected alot of the human race. There are cultures who embrace tears and of course, they are much healthier than we are.
Crying gives us the much needed release when our minds and bodies become overwhelmed. Having a good cry is often all we need, yet many of us hold on to the energy, that whether positive or negative turns into stress in our bodies. We have release valves so to speak, through our eyes. Our tears can come whether due to joy or pain. This is the miracle of them.
Somehow, at sometime, tears became only associated with negativity, weakness, and having lack of courage. Tears are thought to be a sign of breaking down, or falling apart. This couldn't be further from the truth. Having a good cry, when appropriate is sometimes the best and only way to handle some of life's most stress producing moments.
When we hold on to the things that we cannot change, no matter what, we keep ourselves from receiving what God has for us. If there is nothing you can do to change a situation, and it is causing you discomfort and negative feelings like hurt, disappointment, disbelief, and fear; crying to release the frustration of not being able to do anything just may be all you need.
Crying releases us from the burden of feeling as though we have to control and manipulate situations. Sometimes all you can do is cry. To allow ourselves to fall into regret, or self-doubt is a true waste of time. The choices we make are the ones we need to make to make it on our journey. If we believe God is already knows our heart, then we also believe our way will be paved with those and things we need to make it through this adventure we call life.
We will meet with disappointment. None of us are perfect. This is why we are encouraged not to rely on our own understanding. We all have a role to play in life. We must remember to realize our dreams and goals we will need others in some capacity. People do not have to live up to our expectations and when we do not accept this we not only do ourselves a disservice, but them too.
Prayer, crying, meditation, deep breathing, listening to music, writing in a journal, talking with someone, or simply being still all these are coping skills. They are ways of dealing with the stressful things in our lives that won't lead to more self-destruction. Have a good cry.