My husband and I are still in the process of repairing our marriage. He is not as willing to work on the relationship as much as he should be if he wants to see certain results. I cannot tell him what to do, or how to do it, so I have been patient waiting for him to figure it out.
He doesn't want to figure it out. He just wants me to trust again. It doesn't work like that. So we have little mini-blow-ups when he does something that seems suspicious. He spends to much energy trying to project his wrongs on me. To me, it is all a waste of time. He needs to just come clean and be the man he claims he wants to be.