Marriage taught me I knew what I wanted. Even though my husband is a marginal man, being married to him helped me understand the importance of knowing who I wanted. The reasons I was with my husband are clear. He made me feel how I needed to feel.
I learned what it took for me to feel a certain way. Being married helped me figure out what I did and did not want, need and desire. Even as the marriage came to a halt, I was able to make a reliable decision based on what I learned about what I wanted while in the marriage.