So many people get hung up on what their spouse is and is not doing, that they don't recognize the log in their eye. You would be surprised how your partner would change, if you began acting like you think they should. We are mirrors of each other. God intends that we help each other grow as people.
We must allow our spouses to be themselves. Unconditional love is the order of the day. I feel so blessed to have found someone who is so different from me, but has learned to love me as I am and let me be the person I feel I need to be.
He gets me and although some of what he gets does not sit well with him, he loves me still. Be the change you want to see in your marriage.